Woman Refuses to Continue Reminding Childish Boyfriend to be on Time, He Blames Her When They Arrive Late to Game, But She Puts Her Foot Down: ‘I’m your girlfriend, not your manager’

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    r/AITAH ⚫ 17 hr. ago [deleted] AITAH for letting my perpetually late boyfriend miss a game he was excited about because I didn't remind him to hurry up?
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    My boyfriend (28M) and I (27F) have been together for a few years, and he's notorious for being late to things we plan together. He tends to get caught up in whatever he's doing (usually something with his car or playing a game) and loses track of time. Normally, I remind him multiple times about the timing
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    so we don't miss events, which sometimes makes me feel more like a manager than a girlfriend.
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    I've tried to talk to him about it, explaining that it's tiring always being the one to keep us on schedule, but he laughs it off and says he "just runs on his own time." It's reached a point where I plan an hour ahead just so we don't end up late. Recently, I decided to stop reminding him and let him handle it himself. Last
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    weekend, he got tickets to a big game he was thrilled about. We'd been talking about it for weeks, but I had told him a couple of times I wouldn't be "nagging" him to get ready anymore.
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    Well, when game day came, he got distracted again, this time tweaking something on his car, which was running "perfectly" fine. I casually mentioned it was getting late, but I didn't keep at it or hurry him along. We ended up leaving much later than planned and missed most of the first quarter, which he'd been looking forward to.
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    He was upset and blamed me, saying I should have told him sooner if I noticed we were running late. I reminded him I'd already made it clear I wasn't going to be responsible for his time management anymore. This led to a big argument where he accused me of "sabotaging" his plans out of spite.
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    We haven't talked much since. Now, he's told a few of our friends, and some of them agree with him that I should have just "helped him out" for something he really cared about. AITAH for letting him deal with the timing himself and not reminding him to hurry up?
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    Shichimi88 • 17h ago • Nta. It's called a clock and a timer. Your bf should use it.
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    • Dazzling Potion · 17h ago • Geesh, are you his girlfriend or his mother? This guy sounds very immature. NTA
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    gudematcha 17h ago. Didn't we just get the same exact story here maybe a week or two ago? Except it was gender switched and it was a husband not reminding his wife of a concert instead. Like down to the phrasing too.
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    chrisbrady2018 • 17h ago • NTA...How does a 28 yo "adult" blame someone else for their own slack time- management skills?!
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    tiny-pest 17h ago • Nta. Tell him. I am not your mother. If you can get to your job on time, then you well as an adult can get to things you want or plan to do on time. Its not my responsibility or
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    pleasure to have to treat you like a 10 year old who then throws a tantrum i don't mommy them. So grow up and be a man and take care of your own time. It's not like alarms are not a thing. I have better things to do than baby you, and BTW, it's very unappealing to have to treat you like a kid. Much
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    less be expected to cater to your own sstupidity.
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    Past_Can_7610 • 17h ago • Didn't we read this exact story. Almost word for word but the genders were reversed and it was a concert?? I swear I remember that.
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    Aromatic-Leop... • 17h ago • You're not his mother. You're his GF, not sure why though.
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    Alarming Re... 17h ago. Definitely not the a hole. Let him own his own actions. He created the problem, he should learn how to solve it without help from others. If he wants your help, he can politely ask beforehand. ΝΤΑ
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    Kittytigris 20h ago A) not his mom. He can set his own alarm, he's a big boy. B) it's his own fault for not setting an alarm in the first place.
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    C) if he can be on time for work, he can be on time for other stuff. D)tell everyone who feels that you need to 'help him. out' that they're welcome to call him and remind him of the time and they can be in charge of making sure he arrives on time to events and places.

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